Monday, March 5, 2018

Chinese New Year In Penang (Part 2)

It was a very healthy and stress free trip to Penang during Chinese New Year. We left KL early on Tuesday morning and the highway was smooth with very few cars, making it a relaxing drive. We stopped in Kampar to visit my wife's 8th Aunty before buying some ingredients for our steamboat. 

Everyday my wife would find time to hike up Penang Hill or take long walks with me around the famous Botanical Gardens. The air is always very fresh and clean around the gardens and definitely helped my lungs!

Created in Year 1884

This beautiful gardens were created by the British since ancient times. 
It covers a large area of over 70 acres of rolling hills and lush greenery jungles
with natural cascading waterfalls. Next year, I plan to bring my wife to stroll
around London's Hyde Park which is 5 times bigger and connects to
the beautiful sprawling grounds of Kensington Gardens. I will show
her my foot trails.

The present government has put in continuous effort to beautify and upgrade
this gardens from time to time. Now it has beautiful lily ponds outside to welcome
all visitors.

Someday I will be sitting on the benches during my Twilight Years
as a real Twilight Man to rekindle all my childhood memories
of this big gardens.

Flowers may bloom and wither but the sweet memories will stay forever
in my thoughts.

This place is perfect for leisure strolls and to admire its rich abundance of flora & fauna.

My wife was there to join my friend and his gang who were having
their tough boot camp session. I didn't join them as I was busy
looking for monkeys.

They have good landscaping too with perfect settings to hold a garden wedding.

Many photography enthusiasts took hundreds of photos of the fallen tree.
Once upon a time this old tree had stood very prominently but nothing is
permanently in life as the Buddhism teaching says.

This hot couple preferred to enjoy their intimacy by kissing and groping
each other continuously for so long. It really distracted my peaceful walk

Even the monkeys got excited to see the hot couple!
..Monkey see, Monkey do....

There are plenty of very old and unusual trees like this Cannon Ball tree.

This tree bears funny fruits that resembled the cannon balls! I think the monkeys
used them to play football too.

Let me share this secret! This is where the Malaysia's 1st water treatment plant was built
in Penang and many swore that the water from the hills of these waterfalls are naturally sweet.
Now you know why all the hawker food tastes better in Penang!

Good & clean mineral water helps to build healthy bodies like these plants from the 
Daun Kedok family. They are so mighty giant and bigger than my shoes!

I have the fondest memories of this cascading waterfalls where my late parents took
my family to have picnics and we played with the fresh & cooling water!
Those days we played outdoor and climbed the trees without all those gadgets
like computer games and iPads! It was rain or shine with fresh air.
Some parents today spoilt their kids to remain indoors as they
believed it is safer. Remember the saying that
...The Ship In Harbor Is Safe, 
But That Is Not What Ships Are Built For....

Further down the slopes, I saw cupids hovering above this young lovely couple who sat peacefully on the mat to enjoy their Valentine's Day! They were both sketching quietly on their own drawing pads while enjoying a whirlwind romance! Their giggles warmed my hearts and prompted me to walk up to greet them. I took a good look at their drawings and was smitten by their expressive drawings in myriad of colours! I have studied all the types of paintings of Art History in America but this couple drew something new like modern day abstracts instead - Lovebird's Art. I gave them my blog links and told them that I respect their passion to enjoy the mother nature instead of spending a bomb to celebrate Valentine's Day in posh hotels. I wish them success in their love life and future.


Thursday, March 1, 2018

Chronicles Of A Caregiver (Part 2)

Early this morning at 4.30am, a Vellfire Limousine had arrived my door punctually to pick up my dearest wife. She was being chauffeured to the KLIA airport to catch the first flight to Tokyo, where she would catch a direct connecting flight to Houston in Texas. My wife will be away to attend an important conference about world's educational issues in San Antonio besides visiting selected schools for observation in San Francisco. How I wish I could follow her for another "WORKcation" trip but this is sooo impossible lah. My US visa had long expired liao and her lady boss is following her too. Ooops!! I will be Home Alone until next weekend. Haiks!

A few days ago, my wife visited a patient at her apartment in Happy Gardens after getting the help-requests from Doreen. We shall address this female patient as Madam Tan who is a church friend of Doreen and she is suffering from cancer of her ovary. Doreen had advised her to seek help and care from Hospis but she would need to get a referral letter from her doctor. Madam Tan is now bed ridden and would not be able to download the form from the website for her doctor to sign therefore my wife offered to help her on this. I was a bit sad to see this patient as she has lost tremendous weight, with her all skinny & twisted bones making it extremely difficult to move her frail limbs. Her pitiful sight clearly reminds me of my late mother during her final years. Madam Tan is a single lady who lives alone but her very kind friends helped out by hiring a full time maid to nurse and feed her.

Doreen and I have over 10 years friendship today since the time when her late hubby was stricken with terminal cancer. He was under my care and you can read this story on the last paragraph below.

My wife left me with an instruction to follow up with another patient this morning since she had to leave for overseas. She had earlier taken this friendly gentleman Encik Mohammed to see a clinic's doctor for some tests to certify his sickness to enable him to receive further assistance for palliative care. He was weak and had to struggle a bit to walk when my wife fetched him many weeks ago. This morning, I arrived at his flat to fetch him but his condition has worsened. He could no longer stand up or walk at all and his petite wife had much difficulty to help him. She had no strength to push his wheelchair up the slopes as his weight has suddenly increased like a 'dead-weight' which occurs when a patient has lost their ability to move their limbs besides the massive water retention. 

I wheeled him down from the 20th floor of his flat which had 3 very shaky elevators that often broke down every other days. It was scary to imagine what would be like if the elevator broke down while I was inside with this patient in wheelchair who carries a urine bag too. He has colon cancer which has advanced to affect his spinal areas therefore he had to see the specialist at the hospital for further check up and MRI scan. We made our way across the morning's traffic crawl along Jalan Kuching until the hospital where his accompanying wife got down to wheel him inside. I am just sharing with you the reasons he could not be able to rely on taxis or Uber drivers as he has special needs now to be carried up physically when his limbs are sadly too weak to move. The vehicle needs to be able to carry his heavy wheelchair too.

In July 2017, I had posted some sharing on my observations as a caregiver for terminally ill patients in the blog here. Today I will share about Doreen's late husband.

Case #4:
It happened over 10 years ago when fate had arranged to change my life to face the realities of life & death matters by becoming a caregiver myself. My wife had earlier become a Hospis caregiver since 17 years ago as she offered her time to help the NGO when they repeatedly appealed for volunteers to help with their daycare center for terminally ill patients, home visits for the bed ridden and to provide transport to fetch ailing patients to various hospitals for various check up and chemotherapy treatments. My wife had often encouraged me to sign up but I refused flatly as I was too terrified to see terminally ill patients. I would easily cry buckets of tears on seeing them in acute pain and unable to move. I was brought up by my parents who spent their entire lifetime helping the handicapped Spastics Children and running the biggest Home of the Infirm in Penang. To add on with the misery of  the terminally ill patients was too much for me to stomach. 

One day, my wife told me that she had been assigned to fetch a male patient to hospital for blood transfusion, early the next morning. She had been cautioned that she would have to help to physically carry the patient into her car. Sensing that it might be awkward for her to embrace much bodily contacts to hold a male body, she appealed for me to wake up at dawn to assist her for just once. I agreed reluctantly and followed her to fetch the patient at his house in Puchong. We arrived early before 7.00am as his scheduled appointment was at 8.00pm sharp at HUKM. If one is late, you will have to re-book another appointment for the following weeks as there were always hundreds of patients waiting.

The patient's wife Doreen ushered me to enter his bedroom and at that instant, my jaws dropped in disbelief. The patient Andrew was stricken with the rare bone marrow cancer and had been reduced to just a small body of frail skeletons. He greeted me and smiled shyly. My heart sank further to the floor with my head getting blurry on how I could assist him into my car. My experienced wife was quick and prompted to direct me the gentle way to use my 2 muscular arms to carry Andrew up slowly from his lying position. The minute I carried him, he cried out in pain with tears and I mistakenly thought that I was being too rough and inflicted his immense pain. Doreen sadly told me that his whole body's brittle bones and cells have been infested which causes the slightest pain when touched besides breaking easily too. There was no turning back and Hospis Care promptly appealed for my assistance to help this man who became my 'good friend' for 2 years. He had to make hospital visits every fortnight to receive completely new blood transfusions which would take him 6 hours per visit. He always became chatty and cheerful when his body had been replenished with new blood. It became my routine to fetch him and Doreen,  to drop them off before rushing back from my office to fetch him home. Andrew passed away in his sleep 2 years later and it was quite remarkable that he could survive so long as his case was advanced and very suffering. I learnt something from this case that his wife could never get over his death and still calls me every month for the last 10 years! She would just sound cheerful with good greetings over the phone but I could sense that she may have lost her loving husband but part of his memories still lived with me as she had witnessed how I carried and hugged her hubby from the bed to the car and hospital which repeated for 2 years. This had earlier prepared me better that it could also happen to me someday and I should try to overcome this otherwise I might sink into depressions. 
Andrew was a Chinese and Doreen is an Indian which blessed them both with a very pretty daughter with mixed Asian looks like an actress. The daughter was 10 years old when her father passed away and today she is in her final year studying law in Kuala Lumpur.

My article is just for sharing and solely for creating some awareness, just in case you might be able to help and advise someone you know who will need the palliative care. Just log in to their Hospis Malaysia website and download the referral form for doctor to certify with signature. 


Monday, February 26, 2018

Chinese New Year in Penang (Part 1)

I celebrated my Chinese Lunar New Year after a 3 years hiatus to mourn both my parents who passed away back to back in year 2015 & 2016. I decided to celebrate in Penang as most of my old friends and ageing relatives still live in my hometown. 

 It was the best one week CNY vacation I ever had and my big thanks to my wife who so kindly booked a week's stay at Northam All Suites again which commands the best ocean view with all the fabulous mansions dotting below.

The beautiful and majestic mansion of Tycoon Lim Lean Teng
as seen from my hotel's windows.

 I love their swimming pool that overlooks the streets below!

We had our CNY Reunion Dinner inside the the hotel's room. We carried along our small electric steamboat and had a marvelous time eating together. I rekindled our love and many years together. I promised my wife that the next year's 2019 reunion dinner would be in London's Park Lane together with the former Miss Malaysia and her Colombian husband. Remember the nightmarish merry-go-round that I went through to get their marriage papers done! 

That night we joined a friend's family to visit the famous
Kek Lok Si Temple which had thousands of worshipers and visitors.

Every year the whole monastery would be beautifully lighted up
into haven of lights.

It was lively and awesome to be bathed under millions of lights.

The sea of red lanterns hanging in mid air.

Many statues of the Bodhisattva Guan Yin lining in rows.

 Another spectacular view of the different lanterns.

The highlight of the monastery is the giant statue of Bodhisattva Guan Yin
which stands majestically to oversee the vicinity of Ayer Itam.
The weather was very cool as we all had to take a short tram ride up
the slope of the hills to reach the statue.

Beneath the statue, they have placed 108 bowls where devotees
could walk in a big circle to drop donation coins and chant the mantra
for auspicious blessings! Here my wife led the big kids to
donate and chant for merit-making.

Yours truly prayed very hard for a better year 2018 to have
good career and robust health. I also wish all my readers
abundance of happiness and good health!
Huaat Arrrrr!


Thursday, February 1, 2018

Pets Are Man's Best Friends Forever

2 weeks ago, I went to meet Blogger Wenn at NU Sentral to collect some donations from her again. She always donated lots of biscuits for my weekly homeless feeding program which my wife & I work closely with the church team. It was always a "Hi & Bye" sessions with Wenn as she barely had time to chat much as the ETS train was coming. I would always encourage this very good mummy Wenn to spend more precious time in KL with her beautiful grown up children. I miss my mother very much and seeing Wenn's love & attention towards her kids really warms my heart very much. She is truly a very caring lady to her whole family and everyone who knows her including all the homeless people!!

It was a rainy day and I had missed the correct turning to find Wenn, so I simply parked my car illegally behind some lanes in Brickfields. I quickly ran towards the NU Sentral and passed something that captured my attention. It was a cat! The unusual thing was the cat was sleeping and nudging in between a drunkard man's legs on the corridor. The sight ran so much thoughts in my head as I walked on towards Nu Sentral. The cat must be familiar with this man to sleep bravely in between his legs. The man was probably the cat's Master and this kitty probably knew this Master was always stoned drunk until had to camp on the five foot ways. 30 minutes had passed and I bade farewell to Wenn before taking the same route back to collect my car with a heavy bag full of biscuits and coffee beverages from the generous Wenn. She must be a Bodhisattva's reincarnation to touch everyone's hearts this life with her charitable hands & thoughts. I am very sure after knowing her for so many years now.

The faithful cat was still purring and resting in between its Master's legs. I stopped and admired the cat's loyalty for kneading both paws to massage his smelly feet. Love is really unconditional and his stinky feet probably smelled like Sweet Roses to the cat. What a darling!

I always admired my friends who kept faithful dogs and beautiful cats at home as pets. They adored and pampered them all with so much attention and love. Pets are really good friends and could bring so much joy to keep loneliness away. As for me, I dare not keep any pets again because when they died, I cried buckets of tears and mourned for so long! Haiks!


Friday, January 26, 2018

My Birthday Gatherings

Every year, I count myself as a lucky devil who gets to celebrate my pompous birthday over several days. I would have daily lunch and dinner sessions with different group of closed ones - with my darling wife, siblings to assorted friends. This year was slightly different because I invited my siblings instead of the other way round. Then as you have anticipated, I met up with my former classmates at Pavilion. You want to know what happened, right??...

We all met up at Madam Kwan's for lunch. The SIA air steward arrived first and followed by the Cruise's VP. I was a bit late as I was stuck in a traffic crawl but the "Queen" from England was no where in sight.

We guys chatted, gossiped and laughed so hard to kill our time. Finally, we heard a loud knock on the glass windows where our table was. Wearing a loose Dior's blouse with her Gucci sunglasses, the "Queen" flashed the broadest smile and waved at us. My jaw dropped in disbelief, heart beats racing fast at 200mph and stared hard at this long lost classmate who was once my best friend when we schooled together at the famous Penang's Christian Boys School for 11 years. The "Queen" golek her way into the restaurant, swinging her big Louis Vuitton handbag confidently and gave each of us a big hug tightly with all her bosoms. Our eye brows danced and raised in embarrassment to know that a silicon breast is actually bouncy like agar-agar jelly being mixed with some elephant glue. Muahahaha!

The whole restaurant was packed with lunch hour customers, who all focused their attention at the "Queen". They probably tried to guess her presence, as she definitely carried herself like some catwalk models do. People love to be busy bodies sometimes. My "Queen" friend is Celine from England, who spoke so confidently like a party hostess while my air steward friend and I were in deep long silence. I needed time to warm up and just squeaked like a lost mouse. We all men needed time to adjust to this 'new' friend who had just resurrected into another gender. I used to talk to him like how naughty boys spoke but now, I would be talking to a completely new friend. Wasting no time, this new friend Celine shared her sob stories of having to work very hard as a pub dancer and waitress from town to town in Europe. 'He' scrimped very hard and saved every penny until he had enough savings to get knifed on the operating table which was followed by over 20 plastic surgeries to shape him up into a sophisticated lady today. I would say that Celine does not behave like those flirtatious street pondans who always gave an old uncle like me catcalls and slutty looks. Instead her voice is naturally feminine and talks with utmost grace. I was happy to hear that she does not need to work anymore after marrying the good Dutch husband. She is a housewife who keeps the house tidy and clean daily besides cooking very delicious meals for her hubby. Do you remember my other hometown friend who was the former Miss Malaysia who lives in London? The one who gave me nightmares to get her many tedious valid documents to get married to a Colombian hunk. Well they both are friends in London and I was told that Celine cooks the best Assam Laksa, Chicken Rice, Char Koay Teow, Nasi Lemak and almost everything to mouthwatering perfections! Next year, I plan to bring my wife to visit her and hubby in London as they live conveniently near to Heathrow airport.

The lunch ended very well and I heard the commotion from the restaurant's kitchen where they were singing. The waiters and waitresses brought out a birthday cake and sang me a birthday song, all the way to my table to everyone's surprise and delight. I was moved to tears!! Awwww so sweet nia....

We all may have tons of good and bad friends but we should always treasure the few good ones like this. They are friends who give us, the much needed support and many surprises for each other.  


Tuesday, January 23, 2018

Thank You My Dearest Mother

Today is my birthday! Last night, I had a dinner gathering with my siblings at a restaurant in Taman Tun Dr. Ismail. Today I will work half day and adjourn to meet 3 old classmates for a reunion lunch at The Pavilion in KL. We will meet an old classmate from Standard One whom we have not met after leaving school. He left Malaysia and went overseas to have a complete sex change operation to become a lady! He had over 20 operations which were very costly and painful to look like a woman complete with all the boobs and genitals! Best of all, 'she' lived together with a handsome Dutch man in London for sometime without any suspicions from him at all. "She" confessed to him eventually and he accepted her willingly. They had a whirlwind romance and got married in Amsterdam with a big wedding party where nobody ever suspected anything amiss until today. OMG!! People could sometimes be blind like bats! I need to hold my breath and keep myself composed when I meet that fella. I worry that I might turn hysteria & faint from shock. I am getting freaking goosebumps while typing this. What a birthday gift to meet a childhood bestie who turned into a woman!

I would like to share this old photo, in memory of my late mother.

I wish to say "Khob Khun Mak" to my late mother for giving me the best birthday gift - My Life!
This photo was taken when I was about 6 years old, at home in Penang. Please respect and love our mothers always, as we can never repay them back all their love, kindness and sufferings to bring us up from the day we were born. Once they are no longer with us, everything becomes like a good dream has ended.

Happy Birthday To Me!

"Khob Khun Mak" means Thank You Very Much in Thai language.


Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Beware Of Scammers

I have been in a hiatus mode for some weeks now! Gosh! Time flies and the other bloggers have been so active with juicy updates. What has happened to me? Some thought I went for winter vacation but unannounced? That's not me, I would announce to the world if I am packing my luggage to fly off somewhere. Actually, truth to be told, I have never been so busy at work in my whole life. My assistant had resigned and my world suddenly turned upside down with my silly boss asking me to rush out many proposals for him. His proposals would total over 500 pages of power point!! Yes!! Over 500 pages besides doing all my assistant's on going jobs. %#@&*#!!!

I have been so stressed inside and outside my office! Bonkers! 

My condo's tenant has just moved out after 4 years living in Malaysia. She came from Libya with her family to pursue to her Phd studies in our local university and they have been very good tenants so far. The husband is about 6 feet 5 inches tall and really looks exactly like Michael Jordan, the NBA celebrity. The husband painted my whole condo unit by himself before handling over the keys to me to receive his deposits and a pat on his back for his paint work which needed no tall ladders. That was enough to soothe my eyes when I saw some minors defects and damages left behind, besides all my disappearing curtains with his Houdini acts! Muahahaha

The rental & property market has slowed down recently due to the failing economy and over supply of condos and office blocks! So I decided to engage the hungry agents to help me but they are not aggressive enough so I decided to paste ads inside the 7-Eleven stores and online. This is my first time having to go this far as previously, we always had desperate tenants lining up to rent my unit as Taman Danau Desa is quite a convenient location with lots of amenities and excellent infrastructure. A friend advised me to post the ad online and I tried Mudah.Com for the first time. It was quite scary as I received text messages so quick. Too quick to believe there are predators lurking over the net.

At 3.00 am, someone was looking for a condo and I received this text. It was so nice and convincing!

 Without even viewing my unit, she offered to pay one year in advance and showed her passport right away. I am not a moron and my suspicious radar was on alert with careful replies.

Michael Batista texted me a few hours later and that's his lame reply. By the way Michael Batista is an actor in the West and why would he rent my shitty condo instead of around KLCC's vicinity? I quickly googled both the names of Henequelen and Michael which confirmed my suspicions that they are international con men who have sent similar template texts to many victims from Malaysia to Singapore and even Australia and USA! If you would bother to read the links below, that exposed their scams and lame tricks to lure naive victims. So beware and please be alert.

Case - Michael Batista Rental Scammer 1

Case 2 - Henequelen Ambikin Rental Scammer 2 

I replied them with nasty messages and stern warning in capital letters besides showing both the identical templates they had used? They just balked out quickly and went silent.

How do they cheat? They would say they would send money to you, the big deposits and many months rental via pay pal. Then they would text you later that their movers company had difficulties to receive their payment to shift their stuffs citing reasons for being in faraway ocean deep! "So, please help to pay my movers company in advance and I would wire the full deposit total together with the mover's fees to you in one lump sum!" They would give the gullible landlords the fake account number which goes directly into their own pockets. Later they would send you fake "proofs" that they have paid you via pay pal. When you have gone merry-go-rounds that you never received a cent and pay pal officer had confirmed there was no such transactions, the scammers would threaten to sue you if you don't return their money besides calling you a cheat landlord!! Whoa!! Such a silly drama could even deceive many naive victims around the globe.

My friends, please beware always and share with your loved ones this nonsense!


Chinese New Year In Penang (Part 2)

It was a very healthy and stress free trip to Penang during Chinese New Year. We left KL early on Tuesday morning and the highway was smoot...